You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up: A Love Story: Book Review

Author: Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn

You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up: A Love Story

Book Blurb:

In this hilarious and ultimately moving memoir, comedians and real-life married couple Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn prove that in marriage, all you need is love—and a healthy dose of complaining, codependence, and pinot noir.

After thirteen years of being married, Annabelle and Jeff have found “We’re just not that into us.” Instead of giving up, they’ve held their relationship together by ignoring conventional wisdom and fostering a lack of intimacy, by using parenting as a competitive sport, and by dropping out of couples therapy. The he-said/she-said chronicle of their intense but loving marriage includes an unsentimental account of the medical odyssey that their family embarked upon after their infant son was diagnosed with VACTERL, a very rare series of birth defects. Annabelle and Jeff’s unforgivingly raw, uproariously funny story is sure to strike both laughter and terror in the hearts of all couples (not to mention every single man or woman who is contemplating the connubial state).

Serving up equal parts sincerity and cynicism, You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up is a laugh-out-loud must-read for everyone who has come to realize that being “in love” can only get you so far.
 
On Cohabitation
He says: “Within days of Annabelle’s arrival, I became very aware that she demanded solitude and had the housekeeping habits of a feral animal.”

She says:
“The guy had some sort of nudity radar. When I would take my clothes off for even a second, Jeff would be in front of me cheering as if he’d scored box seats at Fenway Park.”
 
On Sex
He says: “I want to have sex every day, but Annabelle only wants to do it once a week. So we compromise: we have sex once a week.”

She says:
“Jeff says talking about money before you have sex is a turnoff, but it’s only a turnoff if you’re talking about not having money. Talking about money before you have sex when you have money is actually a turn-on.”

On Pregnancy
He says: “For God’s sake, all I wanted to do was have sex without a condom for a little while; now we were moments from bringing a new life into the world!”

She says:
“My ass was expanding so fast it was like a Starbucks franchise. On every corner of my ass there was a new branch of ass opening up.”

Review:

The blurb calls this a “hilarious” love story, but except a few good sentences, this book was pretty dull.

I honestly picked it up because of the originality of the title. I was quite intrigued by it, expectations rose and then crashed.

The first chapter is interesting, but the rest is just blah..Both the authors are apparently well known in Hollywood, and so they kept on naming one “famous” personality after other. I must confess I had never heard of any of these people that they mentioned.

Personally, I did not enjoy this book.

The Perks of Being a Wallflower: Book Review

Author: Stephen Chbosky

The Perks of Being a Wallflower

Book Review:

Charlie is a freshman. And while he’s not the biggest geek in the school, he is by no means popular. Shy, introspective, intelligent beyond his year yet socially awkward, he is a wallflower, caught between trying to live his life and trying to run from it. Charlie is attempting to navigate his way through uncharted territory: the world of first dates and mix tapes, family dramas and new friends; the world of sex, drugs, and The Rocky Horror Picture Show, when all one requires is that perfect song on that perfect drive to feel infinite. But he can’t stay on the sidelines forever. Standing on the fringes of life offers a unique perspective. But there comes a time to see what it looks like from the dance floor. The Perks of Being a Wallflower is a deeply affecting coming-of-age story that will spirit you back to those wild and poignant roller-coaster days known as growing up.

Review:

I loved this book!

The diary format that it has been written, made me feel that Charlie was telling me the story of his life. This was an interesting way to form an instant connection. I generally tend to like the books that have this kind of format, like Daddy long legs or The Diary of Anne Frank.

Charlie is an introvert. He over thinks. There are a million things going on in his head, and one comes out of his mouth. I could relate to his personality for most part. Although this book was written long back, it is still relevant. Especially for those who have lived away from home in their high school/ under grad college years. The sudden shift in the people is a change that takes a lot of people by surprise. It is like a completely different world. In the protected environment of the home, one is quite unaware of the harsh realities of the “real life”.

I know how shocked I was to see people around me smoking and drinking when I first joined the undergraduate course. I could not believe my eyes when I saw my classmates smoking quite openly, in school only the “bad” students did “all that stuff” and that too taking many precautions so as to not get caught. This book took me back to that time.

Much like Charlie, I also realised that not all people who I believe are “too much” or who live a different life style than me are “bad”. The only difference was I just went to these parties, and didn’t participate.

Another thing that stuck me particularly was how beautifully the effect of music has been portrayed in this book. Some music brings back memories of the events or people.

This book has one of my all time favourite quotes:

We accept the Love we think we deserve.

SO. DARN. TRUTH.

The ending was quite shocking, and totally unexpected. It was like I am reading this thing, and all of a sudden this book is about something totally different.

I believe this book would have been even better had I read it when I was a teen. But, better late than never!

I was gifted this book by a friend on my birthday from http://www.bestoninternet.com/, the site where you would get my lists for many different genres of books!

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A movie was made based on this book, it was one of the better book to movie adaptations. The movie was quite faithful to the book.

Also, EMMA WATSON!!! <3

 

Here is the movie trailer for this movie adaptation:

30 DAY BOOK CHALLENGE: DAY 14: Book Turned Into Movie And Completely Decerated

For this I would go for Hunger Games movie.

Click here for this book’s review

While the movie trailer was something like this:

My major problem about this movie was that it completely ignored the social, political and the psychological aspects that are shown quite wonderfully in the book. Instead they made it into a love triangle with a little bit of a story sprinkled around it.

– They did not even bother to introduce the concept of Avox, which means that the mockingjay movie had to waste moments making people understand what they mean by the term Avox.

– They did not bring out the “hunger” part of the games. All the characters looked preety hale and hearty throughout the game.

– The mocking jay pin and Madge’s character is ignored. Katniss finds the pin in a sale, which means the entire story line of the significance of the pin as well as the relation of Madge to the central characters goes down the drain.

– Peeta’s family is almost non existent in the movie

– Compared to book, the movie is very tame.

30day

Brene Brown: The power of vulnerability

Brene Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk at TEDxHouston, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity.

Some of the major points that came out of this talk, were:

“When you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak’

It’s true isn’t it? Love, trust…whatever the word, we always remember the worst.

When we numb the bad emotions, we numb all the good ones too

You cannot ignore the bad stuff that goes on and then expect it to dissapear.

In order to appreciate the good stuff, we have to go through the bad. Countless times, people take others and things that they love for granted, and when the other people have had enough and they finally walk out, one is left with regret. And then in order to forget this regret, one would resort to alcohol and blame.

Another important point that struck me in this talk was how researchers define blame. Blame is the process of pushing the pain towards other person.

When I think back, it is kind of true. The times I have blamed people, are the times I was deeply hurt and in pain, and by blaming them, in a way, I wanted (or wished) for a part of that pain to go away. It didn’t. But, yea..

A great talk, I will look for the book that she has written. Maybe will search online for it. I figure it would be an interesting read.

Too Much Reading Makes You Lazy

Recently while researching on education, I came upon a quote from Albert Einstein which said:

At first I was appaled! Reading too much is not good? Such humbug..

But the more I think about it, the more it makes sense to me. Einstein is not necessarily against people reading too many books, but he is against people reading books and not forming their own opinion on these books.

I have come across many people, who by their own admission are “voracious readers”. These are the people who read books like we were asked to read textbooks. They would memorise the quotes and then repeat them verbatim, every instance they get.

The problem with reading like this is that while to some you might seem smart, but since you do not have your own opinion on the said subject, you might just have goggled “quotations on xyz” and had the same impact. What is the use of reading a book if you do not have your own thoughts about the said subject?

The next words in the above quotation that struck me was the use of “lazy habit of thinking”. Thinking is good, right? Then how is it lazy?

Well, there are people who think and think and then think some more. There is no action that backs it up. Unless you are a consultant, this would be quite a lazy thing to do indeed.

If you want to write a book, it is all too well to think about the kind of book you want to write, the scope of story that you want to tell, the characters that would appear in your story, but, if you do not stop thinking and sit down to write it, what is the use of all that thinking?

So, in order to read book, you need to think about it, and then inculcate that thought into your daily life, then there is some use of all that reading, else you might want to glance at the quotation page of Goodreads, it might save a ton of time.

A Storm of Swords, Part One: Steel and Snow: Book Review

Author: George R. R. Martin

A Storm of Swords, Part One: Steel and Snow

Book Blurb:

Winter approaches Westeros like an angry beast.

The Seven Kingdoms are divided by revolt and blood feud. Beyond the Wall, a horde of hungry, savage people steeped in the dark magic of the wilderness is poised to invade the Kingdom of the North. Throughout Westeros, the war for the Iron Throne rages more fiercely than ever, but if the Wall is breached, no king—or queen—will live to claim it.

A Storm of Swords, Part One: Steel and Snow, the first half of Book Three of A Song of Ice and Fire, continues the greatest fantasy epic of the modern age

Review:

This is the third book in the song of Ice and Fire Series, the first book was the Game of Thrones (click here for the book review) and the second was the clash of kings (click here for the book review)

If you want to know how to develop a weak character, this is the series to go through. Absolutely amazing character development. Especially that of Sansa, who would have thought that the silly girl that we met in the Game of thrones, who just wanted to get married and be happy, would evolve like this?

Also, Queen of Thorns…how rad is she? I do not know why, but she remindes me of Maggie Smith. She is my new favourite (or should I say one of my favourite) characters. I just love her practical, sassy, sarcastic attitude towards life.

This book is essentially the build up that leads up to the next book. Rob stark is winning all the battles on the battle field, but is loosing the war due to his honour. It is interesting, is not it? How one action could be deemed honourable as well as dishonourable? When Rob broke his word to the Freys to marry for love, it could be deemed as an honourable thing to do, as he could have taken the easy way out by marrying the Frey girl, but still seeing Jeyne. This would not have been fair to Jeyne but, he choose to the the hard thing, and go with his heart. This same action can also be seen from the Frey view point as being grossly unfair. It was his word that they were counting on and they gave him support for his war, but in the end, he backed out.

Also, I am quite eager to know who Jon Snow really is. I really do not think he is Ned Stark’s Son. Because if you study the characters of each of Ned’s Children, almost all their decisions and actions are bordering on the Ned’s “honour” in some way or other, but not Jon Snow. John’s decisions somehow do not portray Ned. The R + L = J  theory seems quite plausible at this point of time.

Danny’s storyline, although started out with a bang, is becoming a little too tedious. In this book, I just loved the Jamie and Brienne story development. I hope they have some sense and get together.

I have already completed reading the blood and gold book, will be posting the review of it soon.

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